Scholar Dr. Michael Brown responds to Worship Leader Vicky Beeching's coming out as a gay Christian. I really appreciate his balanced perspective.
What do you think?
What do you think?
Three guest posts for Lies Young Women Believe
To the Girl Wrestling with her Sexuality, Who is Safe to Tell?, What do to with Painful Rejection
Matt was finally able to name why he loved being with LGBT+/SSA Christians.
Why Christians can care about LGBT+ people
What the world (my world) needs now is little, honest laments
We got to get the pain out.
How can we really love people?
It takes experiencing love.
Who are the critical characters in our lives?
What I've learned after eight years in my mixed-orientation marriage
Are we really so different from other marriages?
Addiction, worry, and worship are interchangeable
We are made for addiction.
5 reasons I'm glad I said "see ya" to my smartphone
It was keeping Laurie from feeling. That's not okay for someone in "the biz" of healing.
My regift to you
Angela, Laurie's sister, shares hard three memories re-written.
Two days after...
Perhaps there is something (someONE) who can unify us all.
Now is the time to live like Jesus
This is why I cried about the election, and this is what I believe we can do next.
A response to Jen
Rarely, do we get involved in disagreements with fellow Christians about the LGBTQ+ conversation. But, we had to share.
There has to be a better way
How should we treat same-sex attracted Christians in the church?
How vulnerability heals
Sometimes, doing the thing we want to do the least is the thing that will heal us the most.
Inviting Jesus into anxiety
Fear has felt out-of-control after having a baby; inviting Jesus into it (even if he doesn't fix it) helps
A new identity
Matt writes about a friend's affairs before and after coming to Christ--and how his identity was affected.
Guest Post: Can't I just trust him, already?
Another guest writer reflects honestly on how her lack of trust leads her to fantasy.
Guest Post: A reflection on "Living with Longing"
A guest writer reflects on how she practically makes it through the temptation to run from God instead of to him.
Living with longing
Sometimes, you just have to endure.
A response to Orlando: Don't stop caring
Let's not redraw the lines in the sand.
We men need friends, too
Matt talks through how he didn't need a romantic interaction. He needed friendship.
No shadow of shame
Laurie again faces the shame she fights. (Also, a word about the "T" in LGBTQ)
One year ago...
Laurie reflects on the journey of Matt's pornography addiction recovery over the last year.
10 ways to make your church safer
Hint: It starts with the individual.
We apologize for the delay
We are going to take a blogging break as we move our home and office.
The benefits of opening locked memories
There are certain memories that seem off limits. But is it worth it to keep them locked up forever?
Know self, know God (and vice-versa)
We share an excerpt from The Gift of Being Yourself regarding the relationship between self-knowledge and God-knowledge.
I want my daughter to grow up bored
Boredom is...boring. But the neurological and spiritual costs of constant entertainment can be devastating.
Not an identity
Laurie guest writes for Cornerstone University about how her struggle is often viewed differently from Matt's.
Guest Post: How God saved me and my marriage
A guest writer explains how God rescued her from a life of death.
When I am tempted to unforgive
Laurie describes what she does when she wants to take back her "right" to pay Matt back.
The slow descent
Matt compares pornography addiction to hiking down the Grand Canyon.
I'd rather not self-reflect, thank you
Matt sampled single fatherhood for a week, and wrestled with avoiding internal reflection in the midst of busyness and boredom.
Word for the year (and how it might look)
Laurie doesn't do resolutions anymore. (Too much opportunity for shame.) This year her word is "abide."
Don't let me wallow
Is a life with same-sex attractions a doomed life?
Don't give up
For all the chronic pain sufferers...
Honesty, refining, and shame
Matt continues the shame conversation
There is no shame in that
Laurie can still wrestle with the shame of feeling like she struggles with the worst sin.
Do we need friends?
Really. Do we?
There is a lot of hurt in the world. Here is some encouragement.
Unleashing the guttural cry
Matt writes about how his opening up space in his mind opened up space in his heart.
What do I do when I'm tempted
Laurie describes her process.
What has people pleasing cost me?
At times, everything.
Fear, doubt, and depression
Our friend, Amber, wrote a poignant poem about some of life's constant "friends".
Lesson from a toddler
If we can love our snot-laden kids, how much more does God love us?
Battle may not look like a bloody, loud, flag-waving mess. It can look like simple, direct, sometimes painful conversations that lead to greater oneness.
Before we bake cakes/don't bake cakes, issue licenses/don't issue licenses...
Some things to consider before putting our foot down.
More than wishes
What is the point of prayer if it doesn't fix us or our problems?
The bruises that come with healing
Matt shares how the cleanup of sin can hurt.
Shards of forgiveness
Laurie thought one, big blanket of forgiveness was enough. She realized she needed to forgive specific pieces of pain.
An August rest
Laurie shares about her blogging break.
An interview with a courageous pastor
Pastor Marvin interviews Matt and Laurie about their testimony and more. Video posted here.
It is worth it
Laurie compares her previous life to the one she lives now.
Answering the hard questions
Matt describes how answering Laurie's difficult questions brings more healing to their marriage.
Fighting with God
This following Jesus thing isn't always easy. Sometimes, we need to feel the freedom to get angry about it.
Now is not the time to freak out
There are a lot of reactions to the SCOTUS decision. How would Jesus respond?
Gay marriage is approved. Now what?
What has changed for our ministry?
How experiencing truth helped me on the journey
Matt describes one event during the Formational Prayer training that helped him heal even further
Put me in, Coach!
Laurie is being told "wait" while Matt gets trained. It feels like a lonely road.
Why we got tattoos
We got inked as a reminder of something deeper.
Before we leave CA
Lots of photos of what we have been up to.
Jesus gives me more than I can handle
Laurie's usual MO is to turn to fear when things get stressful. She is learning to put that energy into seeking God for what is supposed to actually be on her plate, and asking him for help.
Accountability should be about more than sin-management
Since ridding his life of addictions, Matt has been able to name what he needs to heal.
My response to his addiction
Laurie talks about how God encouraged her to love her husband through his confession--even when she did not feel like it.
How my pornography addiction threatened to destroy us
Matt shares his hidden secret and shame, and how God has begun to redeem.
It starts with me
In a world full of LGBT/earthquake/
political pain and conflict, how can I begin to address it all?
Dear pastors, please include us
One way SSA men and women can feel like outsiders is because we are not included in sermons.
Why the government is not our goal
Laws may come and go, but love lasts forever
Matt's journey with depression, shame, and hope
Matt describes his past struggles with self-hatred, and how it gives him the empathy he needs to be a part of this ministry
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